Single’s wisdom
May 1st, 2010 § Leave a Comment
My desktop is starting to fill up, so I’m trying to streamline it and file things away. I found this:
“Most of our frustration with people not responding to us as we want them to — whether it’s calling us back, or asking us out again — has to do with our egos. We take it as a mark of our attractiveness, our desirability, indeed our self-worth, when our dating object responds with passion, and we take it as a blow to our selves when he or she doesn’t. What we have to keep in mind is that the other’s response is rarely a question of who we are. Almost always it’s a question of who the other person is, what that person has to do that day or week or month, and what demons he or she is currently slaying.”
This was a good reminder to me, because I honestly believe this is true. I hate that I don’t remember where I found it and can’t give the writer credit, but I’m glad I kept it – because now is one of those times I’m having bad luck in the “dating” department. Sigh. Date. What is that again?
